Let’s be honest: motherhood is wonderful, but it can also be absolutely draining. We spend less time with our friends and more time tending to others. We do some of the things we need to do for ourselves, but all of the things others need us to do. It often leaves us feeling isolated and like we cant be honest about our feelings.
Sometimes, we just need a time out. If this sounds familiar, read on…
How to know if you need a Mommy Time-out
- don’t get to do the things you used to enjoy.
- place everyone else’s needs before your own.
- experience frustration with day to day tasks.
- always feel there is a lot on your plate.
- are resentful of others who *appear* to have it easier.
Yep. I’ve been there. And I slowly realized that living this life style wasn’t helping anyone. I was giving so much of myself that there was little left of me to have an identity of my own. I needed to make a change.
Why you need self-care
Self-care is so important, not just for you, but for those around you, yet we often deny ourselves the time to look after our own needs. Here’s why…
- First and foremost, without you, the ship would sink. Truly, can the other people in your home even function without you? Moms are something special.
- You will be a happier person once your own needs are being met. Taking care of yourself will give you a sense of fulfillment which will change your entire outlook.
- You will appreciate the ones you love even more, because you feel appreciated. There is certainly a give and take, here.
- You will become more patient and less stressed. Book that massage!
- You can be the parent you have always strived to be, with more realistic expectations of yourself and others.
The most important thing to remember is that you are not alone. We don’t all admit to feeling like we’ve become second fiddle to the little ones, but we all experience this feeling at one time or another. Just know that things will get better, but it all starts with you.
How to give yourself a Time-out
Take the following steps to ensure you’re “me time” doesn’t get overlooked in the grand scheme of your day.
- Have a set time in your day to do something for yourself. Just as you would add other things to your schedule, make sure to add in time for you. This might be a mani-pedi once your spouse gets home from work or a leisurely stroll with the kids in tow—maybe another mom wants to join you!
- Take advantage of nap time or preschool schedules. Plan to do something that re-charges your batteries when you know the kids are taken care of. Take a bath, read a book, write a letter, sit on your porch, or drink your coffee (without interruption!).
- Don’t sacrifice your scheduled “me time” to do things for other people. You are allowed to be a little selfish—yes, really!
- Call in reinforcements. If you are feeling worn out, ask for help. Grandparents, a sibling or friend can come over for an hour or two and have a playdate with your little ones. If they don’t offer, ask.
Steps you can take right now
- If you can relate to this post, share it with your spouse and the people around you. Don’t be afraid to tell them that you need a time-out. Acknowledging your own needs proves that you are a reflective mother who wants the best for your family. And that starts with taking care of yourself, first.
- Schedule your “me time”. Book a sitter to watch your kids and make an appointment for some time out of the house. Go shopping, grab some lunch, and do something you love.
- Save this post to your Pinterest board. Use it as a reminder that you are important, too.
Feel free to email me if you need more encouragement. Sometimes all it takes is for someone to say the things you need to hear.